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A little ditty to help you remember. It's across the street to the hospital, down the road to the morgue....
If I end up in the hospital......it means I am a complete failure. Of course, in Iowa they would just yell.....HE'S STALLING!!
Do you have a mnemonic to help a guy remember whether the morgue is across the street or down the road? 😀
I want to start this message off by acknowledging how appreciative I am of my college experience here at Penn State. I have made so many positive memories and been surrounded by overwhelmingly incredible people, incredible wrestling, and incredible fans. Above all I will always be grateful for my time here and the opportunity to do what I love.
Being part of such a small sport means that we as wrestlers generally have a pretty good idea of where to expect fans to share their thoughts, this forum being one of them. For the most part, a lot of us try to steer clear of spaces like these for the sake of our mental health, as we never know how people are going to react to our performances, especially when the outcomes differ from what fans may have wanted or expected to see. As an athlete, it can be frustrating. As a human, I completely understand wanting to have a space where you can share your thoughts freely. I don’t blame anyone for their passion, and there have been times where it has been truly awesome seeing some of the positive things people have said during my college career. I try every day to be the best person that I can be, and I love hearing the positivity I try to put into the world being returned to me in the form of kind words and comments.
As much as I love seeing people who are passionate about wrestling, one thing that never ceases to surprise me is how quickly some of the anonymous users on this message board are to make unwarranted personal attacks about people they know little to nothing about. You love this program because of the gratitude we display, and you admire the characters of the overwhelming majority of my teammates and I, but the same character seems to be lacking on this message board after we don’t perform the way you expect, or when someone says something you disagree with.
Despite my mostly positive time here, there is a significant piece of my experience as an athlete at Penn State that I have kept quiet on for a long time. One that as hard as I tried to suppress, hindered my mental health and day to day life here in a big way. Whatever my wife has said to cause a stir in this forum, just know that she could absolutely say so much more, but she hasn’t out of respect for me and my inability to feel comfortable sharing my experience in full due to the fear of how it will be perceived. My wife is someone who will do anything to defend the people she loves. She has had to listen to the things I’ve gone through while here, she’s had to listen to the even worse things her friends and other women have personally gone through over the years due to this same individual, she’s had to listen to the stories of my teammates and what they’ve experienced at the hands of this person, and she’s remained quiet through all of it despite being the most outspoken person I know, because there is a certain sense of intimidation that looms throughout the room and outside of it, and so many people, myself included, will more than likely never feel safe coming forward with their full stories. As I share what little I am with you, I know that many of you will ask yourselves why, if things happened, were they not reported? The short answer is that they were. I tried to go to the right people, and like many others, was told that there wasn’t really anything that could be done. This does not mean that the fault lies in the individuals I went to. The fault lies in the unfortunate fact that often times justice is difficult to obtain, even with evidence. I know that I am being vague here. I understand that by sharing what I am choosing to share here, I could cause people to view me differently. But as much courage as this takes to say, I know there are other people in this sport and outside of it that go through similar situations and I want them to know that they are not alone.
Say whatever you need to about me. Criticize my athletic performances, my views, or my character. I truly have no issue with that. But when you involve my wife, and choose to use our wedding (which by the way was a 20 minute ceremony that we did in our pajamas the day after the Open), or a “crazy honeymoon” (that didn’t even happen until last week) as things to blame for my losses, I cannot allow that to happen without speaking up. When you take a screenshot of one sentence she posted onto her story after another wrestler she admires wins a match and use it to fuel your negativity despite not knowing her personally, that is when I feel the need to step in.
Unfortunately I don’t yet have the confidence to share my entire story, and I applaud and admire those who are willing to come forward with theirs, in spite of the all too often scenarios where their experiences are immediately minimized, overlooked, or just all together not believed.
I look to incorporate the themes and values you hear in association with Penn State wrestling in my day to day because I truly believe that they are the keys to living a fruitful life, and I encourage others to do the same. Any one person does not make an entire program, and I can’t emphasize enough how many good people I’ve had the privilege of being surrounded by here every day. With this in mind I just want to encourage people to keep the focus on us as athletes while remembering that we are also humans who go through so many different situations off the mat that you don’t see. If you have any criticisms or comments, keep them about me. If you have anything you’d like to say to me directly, feel free to message me on any platform, preferably with your name attached to your account. Thank you.
Being part of such a small sport means that we as wrestlers generally have a pretty good idea of where to expect fans to share their thoughts, this forum being one of them. For the most part, a lot of us try to steer clear of spaces like these for the sake of our mental health, as we never know how people are going to react to our performances, especially when the outcomes differ from what fans may have wanted or expected to see. As an athlete, it can be frustrating. As a human, I completely understand wanting to have a space where you can share your thoughts freely. I don’t blame anyone for their passion, and there have been times where it has been truly awesome seeing some of the positive things people have said during my college career. I try every day to be the best person that I can be, and I love hearing the positivity I try to put into the world being returned to me in the form of kind words and comments.
As much as I love seeing people who are passionate about wrestling, one thing that never ceases to surprise me is how quickly some of the anonymous users on this message board are to make unwarranted personal attacks about people they know little to nothing about. You love this program because of the gratitude we display, and you admire the characters of the overwhelming majority of my teammates and I, but the same character seems to be lacking on this message board after we don’t perform the way you expect, or when someone says something you disagree with.
Despite my mostly positive time here, there is a significant piece of my experience as an athlete at Penn State that I have kept quiet on for a long time. One that as hard as I tried to suppress, hindered my mental health and day to day life here in a big way. Whatever my wife has said to cause a stir in this forum, just know that she could absolutely say so much more, but she hasn’t out of respect for me and my inability to feel comfortable sharing my experience in full due to the fear of how it will be perceived. My wife is someone who will do anything to defend the people she loves. She has had to listen to the things I’ve gone through while here, she’s had to listen to the even worse things her friends and other women have personally gone through over the years due to this same individual, she’s had to listen to the stories of my teammates and what they’ve experienced at the hands of this person, and she’s remained quiet through all of it despite being the most outspoken person I know, because there is a certain sense of intimidation that looms throughout the room and outside of it, and so many people, myself included, will more than likely never feel safe coming forward with their full stories. As I share what little I am with you, I know that many of you will ask yourselves why, if things happened, were they not reported? The short answer is that they were. I tried to go to the right people, and like many others, was told that there wasn’t really anything that could be done. This does not mean that the fault lies in the individuals I went to. The fault lies in the unfortunate fact that often times justice is difficult to obtain, even with evidence. I know that I am being vague here. I understand that by sharing what I am choosing to share here, I could cause people to view me differently. But as much courage as this takes to say, I know there are other people in this sport and outside of it that go through similar situations and I want them to know that they are not alone.
Say whatever you need to about me. Criticize my athletic performances, my views, or my character. I truly have no issue with that. But when you involve my wife, and choose to use our wedding (which by the way was a 20 minute ceremony that we did in our pajamas the day after the Open), or a “crazy honeymoon” (that didn’t even happen until last week) as things to blame for my losses, I cannot allow that to happen without speaking up. When you take a screenshot of one sentence she posted onto her story after another wrestler she admires wins a match and use it to fuel your negativity despite not knowing her personally, that is when I feel the need to step in.
Unfortunately I don’t yet have the confidence to share my entire story, and I applaud and admire those who are willing to come forward with theirs, in spite of the all too often scenarios where their experiences are immediately minimized, overlooked, or just all together not believed.
I look to incorporate the themes and values you hear in association with Penn State wrestling in my day to day because I truly believe that they are the keys to living a fruitful life, and I encourage others to do the same. Any one person does not make an entire program, and I can’t emphasize enough how many good people I’ve had the privilege of being surrounded by here every day. With this in mind I just want to encourage people to keep the focus on us as athletes while remembering that we are also humans who go through so many different situations off the mat that you don’t see. If you have any criticisms or comments, keep them about me. If you have anything you’d like to say to me directly, feel free to message me on any platform, preferably with your name attached to your account. Thank you.
Bless you and your beautiful bride Beau! Maybe you couldn’t say all you wanted to, but thanks for having the courage to share what you did. Lifelong fan here, no matter what you do.
Nathaniel
Know you made a couple of kids day! A story they still talk about and will for a long time. Your attitude is a great example for them to aspire to!
Thanks for posting Beau and for your years here. You were one of my favorites for how you conducted yourself and I hope others see you as an example. I do think your words here can at least help others be reminded of a tension that's sometimes identified on this (and other) boards, namely that the way professional athletes are discussed on social media, often without regard for their humanity, is bad enough, but that approach is particularly unfair when college athletes, especially in non-big money sports, are discussed in the same way. It's a good thing to point out from time to time and I appreciate you saying so.
Wow. Easily, by far, the "Post of the
Good stuff.
This is very interesting. Thank you for sharing what you feel comfortable with sharing. I won't publicly speculate about anything but I have an unfortunate feeling about what this could (at least partially) be referring to. Excited to see what is next for you!
Thanks for sharing, Beau. Sorry about the negativity you and yours have dealt with - hopefully you have a basic idea who has tried to keep it positive about our guys here.
Michael Daniels
Glencoe, IL
Michael Daniels
Glencoe, IL
Beau, for once McPat is right, most of us here cant remember what flavor of White Claw we had for breakfast.
Nice to hear it from the source anyway, kudos and thanks for the memories!!
Please don't let anyone on this board get you down. A lot of folks are brave behind a keyboard and like to judge others.
Now - make sure your bro SVN wins the Natty's next year and good luck with the new start of life!
Now - make sure your bro SVN wins the Natty's next year and good luck with the new start of life!
Damn, sounds like some serious allegations in there. No good.
Yeah...don't like the sounds of this.
Do NOT start reading this forum! While informative and funny, it will become a questionable addiction.
Reads like bullying by someone. I’ve been on teams with guys who are seriously toxic and sometimes it was best to just avoid/ignore them and focus on your friends and the great things about being on a team
You’re a class kid and I loved how you handled yourself - big win or crushing loss. Always with grace and good humor.
My favorite memory of you is when you and Shane both won big matches at the same time at 2024 NCAAs - both with huge smiles as you acknowledged each other across multiple mats.
All the best to you
A few pages up are 2 posts that probably were the issue, or at least part of the issue. I'm not going to reference them, but they were personal attacks of the type Beau described.
It's been said often here but unfortunately bears repeating: the wrestlers and their families do sometimes read the board. We keep saying they shouldn't, and that denies reality. We should be better. We don't need to create drama where there is none ... but we did.
Sometimes we forgot about that and the backlash was pretty funny -- like when Neil Alton blew up at a poster medically diagnosing one of the twins, or when someone ticked off Mrs. Matt Brown. Sadly this is not one of those times.
@Beau.Bartlett I'm sorry for this. Nearly all of us are proud of you and thrilled you chose PSU. You've always seemed extremely happy, which makes causing you (directly or thru your wife) any distress all the more disappointing. Best wishes in everything you do.
It's been said often here but unfortunately bears repeating: the wrestlers and their families do sometimes read the board. We keep saying they shouldn't, and that denies reality. We should be better. We don't need to create drama where there is none ... but we did.
Sometimes we forgot about that and the backlash was pretty funny -- like when Neil Alton blew up at a poster medically diagnosing one of the twins, or when someone ticked off Mrs. Matt Brown. Sadly this is not one of those times.
@Beau.Bartlett I'm sorry for this. Nearly all of us are proud of you and thrilled you chose PSU. You've always seemed extremely happy, which makes causing you (directly or thru your wife) any distress all the more disappointing. Best wishes in everything you do.
You have to be a complete fking moron to go after wives and kids. Like Spyker telling folks to reach out to recruits. Just creepy as hell.
I specifically remember someone wrote something stupid regarding Beau. I mean, it was dumb and attacked him personally about his wrestling. I'm like, wtf? He was just in the finals last year and should have won. I actually loved to watch Beau wrestler. Although, he could give you a heart attack, he has nerves and balls of steel. He also never quit. Love that young man.
Wow, this took a lot of courage to write. I'm sorry that you've experienced negativity on the board and from whoever that "one person" is. I've always appreciated your talent and the way you have handled yourself. I talked to you before the all-star match, and you couldn't have been more appreciative or respectful. Again, thanks for taking the time to share your experiences with us.
Man I don’t know , to post that , implying serious allegations about the program, but being vague about it? I hope you informed Cael, Cody , Casey and Nick you were publicly writing it and most likely, publicly saying one of them dropped the ball on most likely, dealing with an alpha male who won 5 titles
I’m kind of here also. I am a big BB fan and hope he has a great life and future and enjoyed watching him while he wrestled here but not sure this was the best way forward.
I didn’t either. Just ones saying his wife wrote that after the Kyle / CStar match (which we all know she shouldn’t have wrote , as that would cause a riff in the room )
A lot of assumptions already. Lets stay out of the cesspool, no need to turn this any farther into the Iowa cesspool territory.
Do you even realize this is the exact kind of post that he’s referring to?
He’s beyond critique? That was a shit move, one that may start an unfounded investigation. Should I drop my name and where I work like you while I’m at it?
I stated a fact. Do with it as you wish.
As to the tone in your last remark, maybe you can be clearer what point you’re trying to make.
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