There's knowing and there's KNOWING. There's knowing you flatly denied on national TV that you ever had any knowledge of 2015, which if it is a lie, answers the question about you knowing.
There's knowing that Sandusky was taking boys to the showers at Lasch. There's knowing that your grad assistant coach, someone you trust, thought he heard sounds of having sex. But does that add up to KNOWING? There's knowing you sent Earle Bruce and your personal life coach or whatever he is down to Florida in 2009 to talk the victim out of pressing charges, and that you succeeded.
So this case -- there's knowing that a guy has a drinking problem and gets into epic fights with his wife. There's knowing that you keep him on staff, even though he is a substandard coach, because of a promise made to Earle Bruce. Knowing that his wife talks to your wife about it. But does it add up to KNOWING this coach is beating his wife? It does if you lie about it on National TV.
The circumstances sure didn't look good for Paterno/Curley/Schultz. It was hard for most of us to believe that these men would intentionally cover for a child molester. But public opinion, looking at the facts with the full benefit hindsight, was not going to give them the benefit of the doubt.
So it is with this case. The circumstances look really bad for Meyer -- the basic outlines of a troubled marriage, drinking problems and at least the strong likelihood of violence -- these things really were known to Meyer and his staff, that seems pretty clear. So whether he actually technically was informed of a specific case of spousal abuse -- it may not matter. Meyer may be buried by public opinion just as Paterno was.
Meyer is on the whole a principled guy with good values, like Paterno was. And yet we know Meyer is complicated and makes compromises (just like Paterno did). I think he tries to do the right thing, but sometimes he's going to make mistakes just like Paterno did. I KNOW Joe Paterno's character. Not sure Urby is his equal.
I think the nature of the victims has to play into it. Sandusky was victimizing boys, and boys whose families were dependent on the Second Mile for money and material gifts and access to the Penn State football program.
Zach Smith was allegedly victimizing his wife who, if the story is true, put up with abuse for many years before she finally made a criminal complaint, got a divorce and got a restraining order.
What requirement did Urban and Shelley Meyer have to pro-actively find out the truth and try to help this woman when she wasn't able/willing to help herself get out of the violence -- or maybe for all we know she begged her friends to NOT take action to protect her? All we know for sure is that public opinion in 2017 is not going to give the Meyers the benefit of the doubt.