It can be a slippery slope. Exactly. Why and when does being the best matter? When is it O.K.?
How can we possibly be sending the right message to kids not to compete? We joke a lot about participation trophies in kids' sports, but this mentality is becoming more and more common in all aspects of children's lives. If this continues, it will be a rude awakening when kids find out that competition is important later in life. It may not be literal competition (1st place, 2nd place, etc.).
Regarding the "participation trophy" commentary - that's more "back in my day" snowflake nonsense. You guys just want to be outraged. PARTICIPATION TROPHIES!?!? Oh noes!
3-4 decades ago, back in my youth, we generally didn't even start organized youth sports until 3rd grade or so. And we just played, during the 2-3 month season, and moved on to the next sport. Lather, rinse, repeat. You played sports with friends, casually, and then you showed up for your rec league, played that and moved on. You grew up doing this, and no one really cared or got ultra competitive until high school. At that point, maybe you started thinking about playing a sport in college.
Today, we're starting kids in "organized" sports before kindergarten ... so, yes, we give those little kids "participation trophies," because they don't have a clue what "competition" is, nor should they, at that age.
But, we have them playing multiple sports nearly year 'round by age 8 or 9. My neighbor has his kid on 3 hockey teams throughout the year (the seasons generally span 6 months each), plus the "elite" travel squad that goes to Canada, Vegas and other destinations to play in tournaments over the summer, in the "offseason." At age 8. And, the word is, if you haven't made this elite group by age 8 or 9, you have no future in hockey. High school may not even be an option. He's dropping 20K easy, per year (likely much, much more), and he says he just wants his kid to be able to make the high school team.
I ended up playing college baseball (non-sports-related injury ruined my once-legit pro prospects), but I didn't start playing T-ball until 2nd grade ("real" baseball wasn't offered until 3rd grade). In 3rd grade, we played in our in-town league - maybe 10 games in spring/summer, followed by a couple of silly playoff games against your buddies. That schedule continued for a number of years. We weren't in an official "Little League" or "Cal Ripken" organization.
Today, a very good 3rd grade baseball player's season starts in fall ... when he's practicing with his AAU team. He's typically having private lessons and other group workouts. That continues over the winter. Then, in the spring, he's playing his typical in-town rec league, in addition to his AAU travel schedule (often to neighboring states, including tournaments - 2 to 5 extra games on the weekends). And then he plays in the summer "all-star" league representing the town in travel baseball. And if in 5th grade and beyond, you can add Little League/Cal Ripken tournaments to that schedule. A year ago, a summer All-Star squad playing in our travel All-Star league, and in the Little League tourney, ended up playing 30 games over 30 days, in summer.
Basketball isn't much different - with travel leagues and AAU during many seasons starting in 4th grade.
Soccer is much of the same ... travel soccer representing the town requires a fall and spring commitment. Most kids also play indoor soccer during the winter, and a good number play club soccer on top of it.
And on and on ...
And most kids are playing multiple sports, while doing 1 or more of the above.
Today's generation is ULTRA-competitive, not a "participation trophy" generation.
The phenomenon isn't much different in academics, where kids are pressed to take more, and do so earlier, than ever before. And supplement with outside learning. The high school course offerings look more like a university than any high school I remember from my generation. And they're being pushed and pushed.