Ah, an Austinit call back. Here ya go:
Maybe someone here can help me. Last night, my girlfriend and I were discussing what form of birth control we should switch to. She's had some problems with what she was using previously (she doesn't like the hormones and her the one type she used failed her before). She has suggested that I wear condoms in the past and brought it up again and I told her that condoms weren't an option if she wanted me to enjoy sex. She pushed for the reason why I couldn't use them with her but I have used them successfully in the past. I told her the combination of the latex barrier and the fact that she has kids was the reason I "couldn't feel anything" when we tried it the one time. She made me explain what I meant when I mentioned her having kids. I told her that she was looser and it was because she had given birth (I wasn't with her before she had kids so I don't know the difference, I just know compared to other girls I've been with). She was extrememly offended and hurt that I would say such a thing. I told her that she asked me and I told her the truth. I was frustrated and defensive at first but then I explained how I loved our sex life and I realize it's a normal thing for a woman to be looser after having kids. She said she didn't realize her body had changed (although she's joked about it in the past). She can't seem to get past it now. She is uncomfortable and embarrassed and isn't sure she can have sex with me any time soon.
Last night on the phone, she was upset,crying, lashing out and I told her I had to get off the phone to get work done. I didn't call her back to say good night or go over last night (which we briefly talked about before the fight) because I didn't know what to say to her and I'm sure that pissed her off as well. I didn't intend for my comment to be an insult. She says it definately was. I can't take it back so what am I supposed to do now? I'm frustrated and I think she's overreacting and making more out of my comment that she should. Opinions?
My tendency would be to never bring it up again unless she does. Suggestions?
