There was a segment on 60 Minutes maybe a month ago on AZ. A married couple has been interviewed annually for about 10 years as she’s slipped into the depths of AZ and he’s tried to cope and take care of her. It was heartbreaking to watch, not only for this couple, but knowing how many more families are impacted by this life-stealing disease.
My condolences re: your grandfather.
Thank you--I'm going to search for that segment online somewhere. It sounds quite interesting.
I might have shared this store here before, so if I did, I apologize. My grandfather went from a calm & resolute union president, congressional candidate, and local politician to an angry, agitated person in a nursing home. I was very close to both he and my grandmother--in most ways, they raised me.
He'd have many bad days where he'd go into a fit for no reason and become extremely agitated. He always "knew" me during visits, however he had trouble remembering my dad and uncle (his sons). Many bad days in a row and one day of almost complete clarity--it was so strange. It seemed that when he became upset about something, he didn't know what to do, knew it, and this pushed him further into the abyss.
Towards the end, he went entirely non-communicative. After a brief hospitalization, they took him back to the nursing home and we were all advised to say our goodbyes. The wife and I went to see him, and when he saw us walk into the room, he exclaimed our names, sat up, and we had the most normal conversation I had with him in years. He went from syllables and noises to normal conversation.
As we were preparing to leave on this day, my grandfather did something he never did previously: Mention my grandmother. He asked if "Gigi" had our new address (we had just moved); we said yes and gave our goodbyes. The wife and I left somewhat encouraged by the visit.
Around 6-7am the very next day, my mother called to tell me he passed away.
I've read that Alzheimer's patients often have this moment of clarity right before they pass away. Nevertheless, it was an incredibly moving experience that still gives me chills. Not only did he go from non-communicative to normal conversation, he remembered that I recently moved and asked if my grandmother had the new address.
I'm not the most religious person in the world, but I felt that this was truly a religious moment in life. The wife and I are so glad we made the drive to be there with him on the last day of his life.