True. But I've learned that who we are is really about those we love. Consequently, I've become a stranger,even to myself.
What scares you?
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I guess I understand that. But there are other people you will love, if you give yourself a chance to.
"I don't think that I can take it,cause it took so long to make it....and I'll never have the recipe again....."
You've got the recipe. Good friend of mine lost his wife. Moped around for a couple years. Retired lawyer who always wished he had been a teacher or a college prof. Started subbing in the local schools a couple days a week, now he is coaching football. Says he is "too busy," and needs to "retire again," but he says it with a laugh.
There are people who need your help. You just have not met them yet.
Thank you
Thank you mn78psu83, when JungleJim gave me the "
" I zoomed in on Jean-Paul Sartre, but didn't have time this morning to fully appreciate (read). Having a sandwich and catching up on the BWI.I happened to be passing through Palm Springs when one started last year. We were told we weren't in danger, but you could smell it as easily as you would a barbeque on your patio. Really unsettling experience,
You have nothing to worry about. He has you on "Ignore."
My father died from complications of Alzheimer’s disease. His last three years were a drain on my mother and the family. He didn’t know her. He called me “that nice guy”. Mom was hospitalized and we determined it was time for Dad to go to dementia care. I took him. I will never forget the look he had as I left him in the dining area. Although he was unaware of most that was happening, he was aware that I was leaving him.
When I would take Mom to visit, he would see her,take her in his arms and they would dance the two-step. He didn’t know her name but he remembered dancing with her. Dad was always active and exercised into his 80’s. On his last night he took his walker and was doing laps around the floor. He seemed to want to exercise himself to feeling better. The next day he passed.
My mother-in-law had vascular dementia. She and I didn’t get along until her dementia became worse. In the end she knew who I was but not her daughter.
I tell my wife that if I suffer from dementia to take me to our shore house, go for a walk on the beach and suggest I go for a swim. I do not want to be a burden or warehoused.
When I would take Mom to visit, he would see her,take her in his arms and they would dance the two-step. He didn’t know her name but he remembered dancing with her. Dad was always active and exercised into his 80’s. On his last night he took his walker and was doing laps around the floor. He seemed to want to exercise himself to feeling better. The next day he passed.
My mother-in-law had vascular dementia. She and I didn’t get along until her dementia became worse. In the end she knew who I was but not her daughter.
I tell my wife that if I suffer from dementia to take me to our shore house, go for a walk on the beach and suggest I go for a swim. I do not want to be a burden or warehoused.
This post is quite timely. My answer - cancer. I'm currently at Johns Hopkins, having had two tumors removed on Friday. Surgeons confident they got everything.
For you old dudes (defined in this context as os over 50) - don't put off the colonoscooy . It's really not bad....particularly if you wake up to good news. I am otherwise very healthy, no family history...but you never know.
Take care of yourselves, guys.
For you old dudes (defined in this context as os over 50) - don't put off the colonoscooy . It's really not bad....particularly if you wake up to good news. I am otherwise very healthy, no family history...but you never know.
Take care of yourselves, guys.
Thanks for the reminder, buddy. Good recovery. I'll show this to Jane; she's been on my ass about this lately.
What scares me ? Outliving my wife and any of my daughters.Not too many things scare me, but no way am I living anywhere near this
I hear it's really fun to watch with Stormy D.These guys. Not kidding. They also fascinate the hell out of me. Shark Week is an annual event in my household.
I was gonna include a comment about my sharing that interest with The Donald, but I was pretty confident you or someone else would do the honors anyway. Props.
BTW, would you be willing to get in a shark cage? Not me.
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All the good feelings to you man. My mom just passed a couple years back from the effects of vascular dementia. When we could still get her to respond she would confuse me and my father, not remember her grandkids etc. The hardest part for me is having dreams where she's still alive has her faculties but then waking up and remembering all that happened. Totally understand wanting to go the Robin Williams route and have told my wife something similar.
Beyond that to the subject of this thread I fear zombies. Ever since the ending of "Dawn of the dead" (2004) I can't stand zombie flicks/movies. Which stinks b/c I really want to get into the netflix show Santa Clarita Diet.
Yeah. I'd do the shark cage .I was gonna include a comment about my sharing that interest with The Donald, but I was pretty confident you or someone else would do the honors anyway. Props.
BTW, would you be willing to get in a shark cage? Not me.
