My son would be considered a millennial man. He lacked drive or mission. Always looking for the short cut to life. I don't know how you parent that into a kid. Also spent a ton of time playing video games. It does away with the social aspect of life. Also, the amount of time kids spend within the educational system is a lot more than that spent with parents.
He wanted to go on a school trip, and I made him get a job to pay for it. He went to a community college and was going for elementary ed and quit 1 term before getting the associate degree and went into daycare. When he quit school, he paid rent.
He started working at a casino as a dealer. He loves playing games. He started taking online courses and racked up debt. I told him, when he gets a degree, I'll pay half. After 4 years of screwing around, he quit the school.
He thought he wanted to be a floor manager. He became one and hated it. He's now back to dealing cards. He makes a really good living, or so he says. He doesn't date, drink, or do drugs. He also lives 100 miles from me, and his life is his own. He's gotten into a couple of financial jams, which we bailed him out. He said he'll repay us, but never comes up with the cash.
I don't know how you can instill work ethic. We now live with too many distractions. You have TVs that have hundreds of channels, cell phones that demand attention, and video games that suck up hours of time.
I've noticed that everyone has talked about trucking, construction or military. Do you really think the unemployed millennial is tough enough to do that kind of work?