You make a lot of good points, Kiber. I think a root cause of this problem is either non-existent or weak fathers. When I was a senior in HS I decided that I was going to go to Franklin and Marshall to study political science. I decided this because I wanted to be John Kennedy - handsome, pretty wife, powerful, etc. One night at dinner my Dad looked at me and said, "You are going to Penn State and you are going to study engineering." That was the end of it. What my Dad said was non-negotiable. I did what he said and I think it was the right decision. I don't think that happens much these days.Just my opinion, but I believe somewhere along the way going to college changed from "going to college to get a job", to "going to college for "fun" and to stay in school".
Just as an example. I graduated HS in 82 and wanted to attend college. My family was lower-middle class so going to college was a stretch for the family. My parents wanted to know things like "what was my major", "how many jobs could I get with my major", "what type of jobs I'd get with my major", and "once I graduated, would having a degree in my major help me land a good job". My parents were very influential in the major I chose. I ended with a degree in Finance and minor in Accounting. The only other choice they were going to approve was an engineering degree. My parents saw Finance, Accounting or Engineering as worthwhile investments to make so 4 years later I could be a wage earner.
Fast forward to the early 2000s. My sisters kid graduated HS and wanted to attend college. He was not sure of his major and my sister & her husband did not push him on a degree. He chose Psychology because it sounded fun, and "nothing else" appealed to him. During his 4 years of under-grad we told both my sister & my nephew that having a 4-year degree in Psychology was not going to get him a good paying job. With that degree he needed to go for a masters or even doctorate. A 4-year degree in Psychology was going to get him a $25,000/year social services job.......... Sure enough that happened. He ended up getting a social services job. Worked that a few years and decided to go back to college. This time he decided on "Film". We advised him that if he was going for "Film" he needed to go out to CA and go to a USC or UCLA that had Film programs that would set him up in the business. He stayed in PA and went another 4 years to a PA college for Film......... Again, that got him no real job. He went to college for 8 years. Got 2 majors. Had no real plans. Was not advised that those 4/8 years of college should be used to get a job. He is in big time student debt. And not working in either Psych or Film.
I believe this is the type of crap we need to stop.