I think you are completely missing what Ramos is upset about. He is upset about a conversation, or conversations, he had with Tom Brands regarding his CAREER and current status with HWC that took place AFTER DD had accepted TB's offer to return to the HWC (DD was the Head Coach of a high school in CA near SF at the time he took the offer - and he most definitely was "recruited" by HWC by both former teammate Metcalf as well as Morningstar and TnT). The conversation apparently took place AFTER DD started having quite a bit of success including winning the US Senior Nationals Title and a meteoric rise up the US Rankings Chart. Ramos was the two time defending World Team Member and #1 ranked US Wrestler at 57 kg.
Apparently, a lot of scuttlebutt started floating around how dominant DD was looking as Freestyle wrestler despite his less than dominant career in Folk (DD in one of his Flo interviews said he went with Ramos to Colorado Springs as his training partner - I'm guessing that was some time in 2015, so the Olympic Staff may have also been chirpping at Tom Brands about how good DD looked.). Sounds like it was a very well-known "secret" that a lot of the National Team and HWC staffs thought it was coming down to TR and DD as the heavy favorites for the 2016 Olympic Trials....and many of them believed that DD looked like the better wrestler.
This was the prevailing atmosphere that existed when Ramos was having his "career" conversations with Tom Brands and specifically asked for a candid opinion of where precisely he stood and rated in Tom Brands' eyes (and nobody elses). Ramos said he had more-or-less determined he was leaving HWC which is not that hard to imagine because I have to believe there is quite a bit of demand at clubs across the country, especially Collegiate Sponsored Clubs, for the #1 Ranked US Wrestler, and 2-time defending World Team Member who is essentially a "free agent". Heck, for all we know, some of TR's dissatisfaction may have concerned "compensation" from HWC and rumors of additional comp that was be negotiated with DD to keep him as DD would have been becoming a "hot commodity" in his own right at this point. In any event, it is quite clear that Ramos is suggesting that he had attractive "career" offers to leave HWC at the time when he had the most leverage and he passed up those opportunities based on conversations, including commitments and promises, from Tom Brands. Nobody here has any idea of what TR and DD are being paid by HWC or what TR was potentially offered as the #1 Ranked 57kg wrestler in the country a year ago heading into the Olympic Trial season. To the extent that not leaving HWC has cost Ramos a significant amount of $$$ relative to leaving now and he feels like he was intentionally misled to some degree when he told Tom Brands that he had thought about it and was leaving before (and was potentially talked out of it by TB), he's got a legitimate right to be upset.