Don't compare costs to get to - compare costs once you're there. When was the last time you were in midtown Manhattan? I'll meet you on the corner of NE and VER.I grew up in central PA, and you're full of crap. NYC is a hell of a lot easier than Des Moines or OKC, no comparison whatsoever. Cannot get to either of those cities on a nonstop without flying out of... NYC. Go figure. Oh, and the flights are expensive, and rental cars required.
STL better, but still harder than NYC.
Total cost about the same or less at NYC.
The real question is: why do you insist on sucking on lemons today?